Power's Paradoxical Pattern

Everyone has power. We all need it. Many people misuse it. Some of us use it well. Some of us crave it. But how do you use it intentionally and purposefully, with integrity?

Power is a fascinating thing. One natural reaction people have to power is that if you “throw your weight around” people listen to you; you have power. We believe that you actually gain power by giving it away. This is the counterintuitive paradox of power. We explored this in detail in our article, Power's Paradoxical Pattern.

One of the most potent set of skills for creating influence involves consciously aligning with the perspectives, needs and styles of others. These key skills are fundamental to getting what you want and need in all aspects of your life. It’s sometimes a counterintuitive principle because we have ingrained beliefs that influence is gained by pitching, touting or forcing our position when in reality that usually alienates and produces defensiveness.

What have you experienced in your career, position, relationships, family? Have you seen the “magic” aligning creates. Weigh in…